Do Things

Life is too short to not do what you want

Originally posted on Medium

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All of us do fantasize about leaving everything and changing our lives forever.

Then, after a couple of hours, we turn on the PlayStation, the TV, or whatever and forget about it until maybe some days later, when we’ll turn on the PlayStation, the TV, or whatever.

That’s the perfect way to waste our own lives, always desiring something, but never willing to change for it.

In this article, I’m not going to tell you the secret to become rich, or happy.

I’ll be happy just helping you to change that something you’d like to change.

It works like this:

If you want to have some muscles, or simply stay fit, you must exercise and start eating well. Stuffing your mouth with chocolate while imagining the output of a healthy lifestyle will only make you feel miserable.

The same is for everything else. Nobody is born with any ability, some have the potential, but without training, it will stay at nothing.


Some years ago I decided to learn to play the guitar because I REALLY wanted to play the guitar. I had been fantasizing about it since I was a kid. So one day I decided to make a band with some friends and start playing.

Of course, we sucked big time, and I was probably the worst of us.

Motivation helped me through the first months, but what really helped me when motivation failed was my commitment to play the guitar.

You see, this is something like romantic relationships: During the first months everything is wonderful and easy, you’re full of emotions and you don’t notice all the things that are actually wrong or would need improvement.

And then that chemical cocktail fails (it must, if it didn’t we would literally die), and you start noticing things that aren’t that okay. Like farts under the sheets.

In my case was my complete inability to keep my tempo straight.

And then I had to decide.

Was it worth all of that time that I could be spending on playing video games, watching series or doing anything that would mean an instant reward to me?

I decided it was, in the long run, I would learn an ability that would last a lifetime.

That’s what you must think if you want to achieve something.

Instant rewards might feel okay while they last, but will leave you with an emptiness feeling, the notion of having wasted your most valuable asset, your lifetime.

But long term projects are a motivation to keep going, to keep improving every day, and will leave you with more rewarding feelings. You will feel realized.


1. Get Motivated

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Find what really makes you happy, you already know what it is, Probably it’s that “childish dream” you’ve had all of your life in your head, that thing that your whole family told you to forget about because it won’t make you any money.

Except being a dinosaur, unless you can actually develop some experimental procedure to become one, then please, go for it. Not for the money, but for the joy of doing it.


2. Don’t Give a S*** About What Others Think

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I know, change is scary, there’re many things that could fail, many things that could go wrong.

Also, we don’t want to fail, because we believe that we’ll look bad into other’s eyes, we don’t want our tiny egos to get hurt.

And that makes us want to delay it, so we start making excuses like “it’s not the right time”, “I’m too busy right now”.

Do you know what?

Screw them. No one actually cares about what you do, they’re quite busy with their lives. And if they don’t it’s more their problem than yours.

Think about it

Nobody has any reason to judge you (unless you hurt somebody or something), and if they do, why do you care?

There’s a not well-known fact, and it is that judgemental people project their own defects onto others. It’s part of what’s called Psychological Projection.

People will be judgemental or not, but it’s not onto you to decide for them, also, who wants to fit in a group of grey people?

Only grey people and those are the ones who will never do anything, nor will let others do it.


3. Keep Moving

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Have you ever pushed a heavy weight? Your car maybe?

It’s more difficult at the beginning, as you have to overcome the friction against the ground and the gravity force, but when you finally set some movement inertia makes it easier.

That’s the same thing you need if you want to achieve something.

Trust me, getting up from the couch will be the most difficult thing that you’ll have to do, after that, your muscles will be warm and your mind sharp, so any kind of chore you want to do will be easier.

And day after day you will improve, developing a new ability, growing some muscles, starting a new venture, or just gaining confidence to talk to girls is something that will improve with practice.

And if any time you feel like giving up remember:

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Life is too short to not do what you want.

4 Things that we have learned from this lockdown

The Covid-19 has hit humanity hard like a tsunami.

But although it may seem a misfortune or a setback, it is also a valuable life lesson that we can take advantage of now when the waters calm down.

The flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest and most beautiful of all.

Mulan

These are four valuable lessons we have learned:

  1. That we can live slower.
Cities were deserted
Almost every city on Earth looked like this

Each of us has faced lockdown differently, but there has been one common element: The world has moved slower than it used to, we have found that in fact, our quality of life has increased during the lockdown, giving us time to develop skills, practice hobbies or simply spend more time with family. In short: We discovered that we can live without being immersed in a constant frenzy.

  1. The importance of exercise and healthy living.
Girl preparing for exercising
We started some new habits

Some of us discovered the value of activities such as running, biking, or simply going for a walk. We even started exercising at home and made it a habit, which benefited us physically and psychologically.

Another trend that could be noticed was learning to cook; which in the long run will be beneficial to the environment since according to Greenpeace, 10.5% of the waste generated in each garbage bag are plastic containers.

So by reducing the number of ultra-processed foods that we consume, we would not only be taking care of our health but of the environment as well.

At the end of the confinement, the differences between those of us who opted for a healthy life and those who spent it in a sedentary way could be noticed.

We also discovered that taking the car or the motorcycle is only useful when we have to cover long distances or carry weight and that by avoiding its use we save an important amount of fuel each month.

  1. That we have an excessive impact on our environment.
A fox roaming Prypiat, the best example of a world without us.
Pripyat is the best example of nature regaining its place

During the lockdown, we saw videos on YouTube of animals camping in the middle of cities, roe deer, deer, wild boar and even cougars.

We should not be surprised as in recent decades we have confined animals to small corners. By 2018, it was found that wild animals had reduced their movements by 30-50%, which precisely led to a higher risk of contracting new diseases.

  1. We discovered that we can still save the planet.

In just two months of global lockdown, the planet was able to begin healing the wounds we have inflicted on it over the past few decades.

In Venice, the waters became as clear as glass, and many cities were rid of the chemical fog that covered them.

In Madrid, municipal authorities reported that greenhouse gases had been reduced by 57% between March and April, and a study by the Polytechnic University of Valencia found that Spanish skies were on average 64% cleaner.

If we achieve this in two months, what could we achieve by reducing our activity for a whole year?

Idea: Do whatever you want.

John Lennon once said, “Life is what happens while you’re busy making plans.”

But he also thought Yoko was a great artist.

We shouldn’t listen to him at all unless we’re talking about music.

But we’re talking about life.

We must make plans, because having a goal is what makes life worth living, it’s what keeps us happy.

The trick is to choose the correct goal at each time, and not to think excessively about “who you are”, that’s stupid.

We are who we are, not the things we have done, or the things we own.

Our society keeps tricking us into thinking that we are what we chose (or had) to be a long time ago.

We were told to have a default plan as everyone had.

We were told to forget about our stupid ideas, that we should find a stable job in an already established industry, then marry, then have kids, and later die.

I’m not saying that’s not okay, it’s okay if you want to live that life.

It’s as valid as any other choice.

But let’s be realistic.

That was life about twenty or thirty years ago.

When the world was a changing carousel and not this high-speed wheel of death we’re riding at the moment.

Jobs appear and disappear in a blink, industries change constantly, and there’s no stability.

So the bad news for any of you who would like to live that default plan is that is probably not EVER happening again.

The good news is that we can make new plans.

If our world is already full of risks, then, why should we feel fear at all?

After all, is a situation we’re used to living by now.

So, let’s make new plans because there’s no other choice.

Okay, some of us will have it rough, but it’s better to fail at doing something than just watching everything collapse.

Be brave, start that something new, work hard, learn and be smart.

At least you’ll grow as a person.