However, the main issue with abstracts is how to define what is filler content. You should be able to reduce everything you write to the minimum, but this does not mean that you should cut a text into little meaningless pieces, not only because you will lose some small nuances after the trimming. But also because we do not see the same parts as important and what might interest who reads the book in the first place might be irrelevant for the person reading the abstract.
Full books deliver you all the information unfiltered; They include every piece of information that the original author wanted to give you, delivered the way the author intended it to be, so the reader understands its meaning; and once you read it, it is up to you to decide what is useful and what is not, while they still allow you to scan them. Nowadays, with digital books, you even can type what you are looking for to jump there. And for the rest of the searches, there is Google.
If you have the time, and you like to read, you will profit more from reading the full book from start to finish to find later your own conclusions on the matter.
To me, there is no simple way to learn things. Summaries are useful to learn a few random facts to spew at parties, but do not deliver beyond that because they do not dive deep into the topic.
It is always better to read the full text on everything, even if some books could be shorter, it is still better to have available every minor detail to understand the topic you are reading about.
I do not only translate texts or fix cars. I also enjoy writing about several topics, ranging from comedy to philosophy or even society. It is something that makes my brain work on new ideas and keeps it exercised. But you have already seen this in some of my previous posts.
Writing is exercise for the brain, as solving math exercises or playing music can be as well. With the advantage of allowing us to release on those sentences whatever we have in our heads. To me, my primary worry lately has been my inertia. Inertia matters, because it is what makes us focus on a single task. It helps us to excel at it, but I have lost it for some weeks. Now I am ready to write again.
I started this section to prove my English speaking and writing skills, but writing has proven to be a great way to keep being constant and productive. It takes most of those absurd thoughts out of the brain. Sometimes as absurd as a chicken playing piano, but way less futile.
My upcoming plans are to monetize this place. I have been writing on Medium for some time, and I have tried Vocal, but the best way to monetize my writing will be to add some advertisements on this blog section and keep the stories free to read for anyone interested in them.
I want to create a personal blog that makes enough money to pay its own hosting, so soon you will start seeing more original content in this section of my website.
Why you should not abuse of aesthetical resources when writing
I have been writing on Medium for some months now, enough to know that because I have mentioned them, they will not choose this story for further distribution — curation, for the newbies.
And I have been writing enough time to have learned from my mistakes in previous stories through experience, and through the advice of some people who have helped me.
When I arrived here, I read a lot of stories about how to be curated, and how to increase the number of reads. Most of their advice promised to provide lots of reads, and so, lots of money.
This is the worst advice I read ever. It does not work on any platform, not even in Vocal or Substack. If you expect to make obscene amounts of money with generic writing advice, you are wrong.
Format Like Kanye West
I cannot remember if that was the actual title, but this story advised its readers to use bold letters whenever they could, add lots of pictures, italics, and whatever could be added.
As an amateur writer, that surprised me, but at that point, I did not know what I know about writing on the internet. So, I took the advice seriously and implemented that advice.
I added lots of formatting and lots of pictures to everything. I had to spend hours looking for pictures in Unsplash. And it was a massive loss of time because placing many unrelated pictures distracts the reader, and it is even worse when those pictures are generic stock photos that everyone can easily use.
A picture must always be related to the story you are writing and be the most original possible. It must add value, not make the reader look away. In my personal case, I like to edit my own pictures to deliver the information in a funny way. They help the reader to understand better my content.
Also, publications dislike seeing a ton of unrelated generic pictures, and if they see this, they will reject your pieces without reading them. It happened to me many times.
Then we have the bold letter abuse. I’m quitting on that right now, thanks to the advice of Amy J. Wall, and my recent experience writing on Vocal, where formatting has more limitations.
Bold letters are used to emphasize, they make your readers’ attention go directly towards a point in the page, but if you abuse them, you will make your readers lose their focus, and chances are they will close your story before finishing it, and the abuse of bold letters is another thing that will make a lot of good pieces be rejected.
Abusing cosmetics will never make-up for a poorly written story where there is no obvious outcome for the reader, so it is pointless to attempt to do that with serious publications.
Publish Something New Every Day
This one is another useless tip given by poor writers. It is repeated everywhere, and it does not work, because if your potential readers see invaluable content every time they visit your blog, they will eventually stop reading it.
When you write, you must deliver valuable content to your reader because that is what they expect, but creating decent content takes its time. You can finish a day having nothing good to publish, and that is perfectly fine too. You are a writer, not an AI writing machine.
Try instead to write a bit every day to keep practicing. It will relieve you from the pressure of the need for publishing, and when you liberate yourself from it, creativity flows better than when you spend your days typing without intention. And best-selling articles take time to be crafted.
Bonus Poor Advice: Just Hit Publish and Forget About It
This one is the worst advice I have read to date.
Right today, I had to revise one of my old pieces here in Medium because it had some typos and mistakes. Why? Because when I wrote it, I hit Publish and forgot about it.
Here we are not only writers, but we also are editors. It is on us to deliver the final product to the reader, and that means it must meet quality standards. It is never enough to write the piece, it must also be edited carefully for it to be readable. This applies to every platform, specially, if you run your own independent blog.
Writing something takes time. Your work needs to be well written and formatted to keep a high-quality standard and an excellent reputation as a writer. Do not abuse visual effects to compensate a terrible story and focus on properly delivering your ideas.
And now, I’m going to wait two days, then I will edit this piece, and only then I will hit Publish.
The other day I was having some drinks with my friend Keanu Reeves, it had been some time since the last time we had seen each other and we had to catch up.
At some point, I told him about how I had started writing in Medium, and how difficult it was to catch people’s attention, and also, how difficult it was, some days, to create original content for my stories.
Then, Keanu gave me the obvious answer.
“Write about me,” he said. “Everyone loves a story where some famous name appears, and everyone knows my name”.
“But that would be cheating,” I said, “There are already a ton of bad stories on Medium that use famous names just to get undeserved reads”
“It is not cheating if you deliver something valuable, like a story about me and some absurd ending, now excuse me, my planet needs me.”
And having said that, he began levitating and disappeared into the sky.
“Hey, normal people don’t fly, not even Keanu,” I said moments before regaining my consciousness.
“I HAVE BEEN IN THE MATRIX,” I yelled when I came back.
“No, you have been three days in a coma after slamming your head against the wall yelling that you needed new ideas to write. Jesus, I had never seen a writer so desperate for creativity” said some hot doctor who looked like Claudia Schiffer when she was young.
“I don’t care, bring me my laptop, woman, I must write about Keanu.”
Keanu Reeves Helped Me Get Out of The Hospital
Those were dark days.
I was interned at the Hospital while they checked my head for injuries. The doctors said that apparently, I was perfectly okay, but they would need to run some more scans, because, they said, resisting so many hits was not normal either.
In the meantime, I had made a friendship with one of the nurses who was about my age — 30 years old here. Her name was Audrey; she was skinny and very smart; she spoke five languages, but above all, was a good listener.
I talked endlessly to her about my incident smashing my head into the wall out of desperation to come with new ideas, and she usually knew exactly what to say.
“It is okay to not have anything good to say sometimes, you the writers have been forced by The Media to come with ideas endlessly, but you’re not machines, not even you with the metal plate they had to put in your head.” She once told me.
And I felt she was telling the truth, I had been trying to write too much lately, so I decided to rest a bit for a few days, let my brain cool down.
And so, the days passed by, and I felt better, saner — I had a lot of weird dreams about spoons though. And the extensive talks with Audrey helped me a lot, She had become a good friend.
Then one day, while I was watching Greta Thunberg playing a brutal guitar solo with her Green Metal band on TV, Ms. Schiffer came in, you know, I introduced her at the end of the last part, but to be honest, back then I was high on sedatives and I didn’t see her well. Actually, Ms. Schiffer looked more like Lindsay Lohan after a DUI.
She brought my laptop with her.
“Mr. Miana, it’s time to start typing again, you have a lot of work to do,” She told me.
“Okay, but after the show, I don’t feel like writing yet. I’m recovering.”
She did not look amused.
“Mr. Miana, IT’S IMPERATIVE THAT YOU CONTINUE WRITING IMMEDIATELY.”
“Okay, immediately after Greta’s concert.”
The Schiffer then grabbed my arm. It felt like an eagle’s talon around it and pulled me closer. I could see a giant reptile eye on her forehead, but I did not remember it being there before. Could it be real? Or maybe I was having an attack because of my injuries?
“YOU’RE GOING TO WRITE NOW, OR ELSE I’LL CONSUME YOU RIGHT HERE.”
Definitely, something was going on with my head.
“What did you say?”
“No, the other thing”
“CREATIVE PURPOS — “
Right then, the door exploded and Keanu appeared between the cloud of dust that formed afterward. The Schiffer laid unconscious on the floor, and she looked human now.
“Come with me if you want to live,” Keanu said.
“Shit! You have killed Lindsay Lohan!” I remember yelling.
“That’s not Lindsay Lohan, for starters, it’s not even human. Now, let’s go!” he ordered.
I did not know what was happening, but if some celebrity appears blowing the door and half of the wall it’s not a good idea to get him mad. So I followed him down the hall. It was crowded with Schiffer clones, but those had black hair and seemed less powerful because they lacked the third eye.
We made our way to the garage way fighting them, Keanu shot them Matrix-style. And I had a broken broom I had found in the hall. Then, we heard a terrifying scream behind us; the Schiffer queen was on her feet again and was running towards us, and destroying every clone on her way. I almost shat my pants, but I managed to run faster. Nothing motivates you better to run faster than a monster chasing you.
After some minutes, I found out that I could not see Keanu Reeves anymore. I was near the entrance of that place, and the good news was that Schiffer seemed to have followed Keanu instead of me. Too bad two of her clones were with me.
Use the force, JM, suddenly said a voice in my head.
“What?” I asked as if hearing voices was completely normal.
The broom, use the broom.
Maybe I was able to do some kung-fu? By now, I believed anything. After all, the day was getting weirder and weirder. So I tried to make the broom spin in my hands like in those old kung-fu movies, then I hit my leg with it; I tripped over it and ended up stabbing both in my fall.
Both clones lied dead on the ground where a puddle of blood began to form.
Never underestimate the Belic power of a broom.
I got out of the building just in time to hear a motorbike really close, then someone grabbed me by my jacket and I thought I was flying until I saw Keanu driving the bike. The Original Schiffer was trying to catch us as we sped up and escaped the place.
Then, the entire building exploded and debris fell all around, trapping the Schiffer under a pink bathtub while we escaped.
“We have to turn back! I have a friend in there!” I yelled.
“If you’re talking about Audrey, she works with us, she’s the one who set the bomb,” Keanu replied.
“Why did she set a bomb?” I asked.
“Creative purposes.” He replied shrugging. “Now let’s go to the base, We’ll answer your questions there,” he continued.
Will continue soon.
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JM is a Spanish writer who endlessly talks about cars, philosophy, and revolution when he’s not playing guitar or annoying his friends with bad jokes. You can follow him on Twitter to see more content: @jm_miana.
“Reason is intelligence taking exercise. Imagination is intelligence with an erection.”
― Victor Hugo
My imagination has been extremely vivid since I was very little, I used to daydream a lot and that gave me the quality of being a thinker.
That sparked a huge curiosity on me, and I would talk and talk about everything that came into my attention. It felt somewhat like a superpower, as I was the only one in my family with it. With that superpower, I wrote some short (and shitty) comics, some of which I still keep somewhere, and also, designed some fixes for my broken toys.
As I grew I became more interested in Arts, I tried to learn to play the guitar, but without a guitar and everything else I had to wait. My family didn’t actually support any of those hobbies.
But they loved how I would always come with a new idea to fix my dad’s beaten up trucks, I discovered that my creativity could be used for more material things, like mechanics and engineering.
I kept drawing and daydreaming, and also, failing at my grades, but I didn’t care, imagination was my escape from a crappy reality, I’m not going to bore you with every detail, just know I was quite poor.
And that kept going for years. Several wasted years.
During that time I didn’t have any chance to develop my creativity. Yeah, I kept writing notebooks and notebooks, which are also full of doodles. Later I was able to learn guitar, but that’s a story for another day.
But I didn’t feel society supporting creativity, and I’m not the only one who has lived this, some more kids from my background suffered this.
The Actual Story Begins Here
Creativity is not something valuable for the working class, it’s regarded as something for Bohemian painters, the kind of people who don’t have a place to fall dead.
When you have resources, you’re allowed to become whatever you want, the world thinks it’s okay if you spend your time trying to become a painter, a writer, or even an engineer (a career also related to the imagination).
But when you’re poor you’re expected to get those stupid ideas out of your head, the world will blackmail you into giving up, and this way, lots and lots of people who could have otherwise been successful end up working in crappy jobs, all of their lives. While if they had a bit more support, they could have achieved the same as their counterparts.
I managed to still develop my creativity, I firmly believe in myself and that helped me to get out of the flock, not without sacrifice. And it’s been an extremely long path.
This text is dedicated to those who can’t, who feel overwhelmed by our society’s norms that keep hammering our heads with “It’s not worthy”, “stop daydreaming”, “you’ll starve to death”, or my favorite “you’re poor, you can’t afford it”.
The ones who could do marvelous things if we stopped trying to look good just for a second and actually did something good.
I want society to make them stand out, I want the world to notice them, to start actually helping them, fixing the education worldwide, and encouraging everyone to follow their abilities instead of clipping their wings.
Poor kids also have potential, and we’re completely missing it.
Today I wanted to write something free of the boundaries that apply to most publications, because I’ve noticed that sometimes we can’t say all the stuff that we would like on them; it’s not their fault, our world has some rules to follow.
When I’m writing, I’m sometimes tempted to curse, or to defend unpopular opinions, something that I feel we should do more often.
MY DEFINITION OF A FREE SOCIETY IS A SOCIETY WHERE IT IS SAFE TO BE UNPOPULAR. WHERE IT’S SAFE TO SAY WHAT’S ON YOUR MIND, ESPECIALLY WHEN EVERYONE DISAGREES. WHERE IT’S SAFE TO BELIEVE WHAT YOU BELIEVE, ESPECIALLY WHEN EVERYONE ELSE’S BELIEFS STAND ELSEWHERE. WHERE IT’S SAFE TO SWIM AGAINST THE CURRENT AND BE PERFECTLY SAFE FROM THE OTHER FISH. ADLAI EWING STEVENSON II (1900–1965)
And that’s one of the issues that drives me the most.
Why would I want to write what everyone else is writing right now?
I swear, I can’t stand that behaviour, it’s one of the most stupid in most places.
Like with novels: Every fucking time there’s a trend where it gets easier to get published; when Harry Potter began making a shitload of money, every single novel was about magical kids — don’t get me wrong, I really like Harry Potter, but I think that lots of people started to write about magic like crazy just to make some money.
When Fifty Shades of Gray made profits, every author was suddenly into BDSM. Yet sex is one of the biggest taboos, even in this hyper-sexualized society.
We should instead encourage different ideas and debate between people, we should listen to them without judging or censoring them, but learning from others. We should reason our points and speak our minds (as long as it’s not just to harass someone).
If we keep dragging each other down into the mud, we’ll keep being hairy pigs.
In a Nutshell
We must dare to write whatever we want to write and be open to discussion, because in this polarized society of today, only a bridge built with different ideas and, why not, some F-bombs, might join us together again.
How social movements have been hijacked by the upper-class kids
Nowadays, the talk about privilege is in the spotlight globally. We tend to talk a lot about privilege.
Most of the time these talks come from upper-class college students, posting from their expensive laptops, insulting anyone who disagrees with them, talking about privilege and anticapitalism while failing to realize that they are part of that system they criticize.
They will throw tantrums as soon as they have a chance, not because they actually care, but because it’s trendy.
They will call horrible things to anyone daring to not agree with them, including literally anyone, even blue-collar workers, black people, formerly oppressed women, anyone.
They will try to destroy their lives in the name of justice, without realizing that they’re being the actual bullies.
Because let’s be honest, when you have enough money to write from a Mac, while sipping Starbucks coffee and making fun of those who weren’t able to attend college, the ones who keep your country running, the chances are that the only privileged is you.
This kind of privilege silences every fight, as it shifts our focus from things like our growing global poverty (yes it also exists in the wrongly called first world, but it’s just ignored), the soldier kids in Africa, or the female mutilation in certain countries to their first world problems, to their childish desires.
They deliberately ignore the working class’ problems, like low wages, extensive overtime, unpaid hours, the lack of access to health or a decent education, the impossibility to generate any savings. This class has become the most targeted for their mockery. And this is generating a wave of growing anger.
You can even see some of them try to rebate black guys on how is like being a black guy in the United States.
And so, they’re slowly killing actual fights by suffocating them inside their endless need for attention.
Those around you will always try to drag you down when you’re trying to progress
“She reached down and picked a crab out of a bucket. As it came up it turned out that three more were hanging on to it. “A crab necklace?” giggled Juliet. “Oh, that’s crabs for you,” said Verity, disentangling the ones who had hitched a ride. “thick as planks, the lot of them. That’s why you can keep them in a bucket without a lid. Any that tries to get out gets pulled back. yes, as thick as planks.”
― Terry Pratchett, Unseen Academicals
There’s a lot of stories out there that talk about improving your life and the bravery it takes to dare to change your life. Even I have written some of those.
But there’s a topic that is not being covered enough: Your family and friends.
Yes, the people who love you might also try to drag you down. No, they’re not evil. It’s way more complex than that.
The crabs in a bucket effect or “crab mentality” is a part of the human behavior that makes us try to reduce a person’s self-confidence to ensure they don’t succeed.
Take Your Parents for Example
Just when you finished talking about how much did you love acting at school plays they would give you the concerned look, and immediately after they would tell you to forget about it, that acting wouldn’t make you rich.
They would try to shame you into giving up.
And you were just talking about something that made you happy.
But in their minds, they were saving you from becoming poor, they felt that it would be safer for you if they crushed anything you liked. Because the world will always need accountants, right?
There you have them. The first crabs in your barrel.
Their fear of something bad happening to you, for example, poverty, made them want to drag you down. The first ones to release yourself from, and for some of you, the best crabs you’ll encounter in your whole life.
Then You Have Your Friends, or Better Said, Your Acquaintances
Those are the people you hang out with, your squad, you’ll wish the best to some of them.
But beware, some of them won’t wish the best for you.
In the first years of your life it will be difficult for you to realize this, but the number of people to whom you can trust your most inner desires, your hopes and fears is very limited.
And so, many of those will try to persuade you of not being worthy, to give up, some of them may even state that they’re worried about your well-being.
But actually, they’ll be afraid of your success, their egos will get enormously hurt if you succeed and so, they must avoid it at any cost.
And in other cases, they’ll be just true friends that will be genuinely worried, you must keep those close, but not letting them drag you down at the same time.
Those are the second kind of crabs that you’ll encounter in your life.
Later in Life, You’ll Find Your Colleagues
Someday you’ll be working hard somewhere and you’ll make the mistake of letting your colleagues know that you like to draw or something.
They’ll look at you as if you were suddenly from outer space, and they’ll say something like: “Why don’t you do overtime instead?”
As if having a life, a passion out of your working hours was a crime.
And if your boss finds out, which he’ll do because someone will tell him, he’ll likely hate it.
To him, you should live and die for the company, and he won’t tolerate any other behavior.
Those were the third kind of crabs, those who will wish you the worst, but the less dangerous.
The Last Crab is You
You’re holding yourself back too, because you’re afraid to fail, which is natural because you don’t know if you could end cooked up.
But you don’t know that.
You can’t predict the future, but you can follow your guts. And if you feel that you want to change your life, so be it.
Release your fears, you could be afraid of ending in a cooking pot when there’s also a whole ocean out there.
Love your people, but don’t ever let them drag you down.
There’s a global issue that must be addressed, and it’s the fact that our political leaders are out of touch with their people’s realities, they stick to the formulas they know and forget about everything else, which is leading us in general to a difficult situation.
When I look at the United States’ news I see the same awful situation as in my homeland, I see the rise of the far-right, and I see a growing distrust in democracy.
In the last decades, there’s been a growing gap between social classes, which has worsened in the last ten years, the middle class has almost been erased after so many years of liberal politics (sometimes disguised as left-wing politics, ironically).
There’s been a growing discomfort in the lower classes fueled by their poverty and the lack of understanding of the governments, who have preferred to center themselves on things that were more appealing to them, like the global economy, or social politics, just not in a way neither of them would benefit the working class, which has fallen from middle to low class.
On the positive side, subjects as racism and some other much-needed fights have been put on the spotlight, but matters like poverty, the lack of education and homelessness have been widely ignored, invisibilizing people from several backgrounds, not only white American men have been affected by this, as I say, this should be treated as a global issue.
But what our society has sadly decided instead of facing this matter is to create a narrative where anyone complaining about this extreme capitalistic system is automatically labelled as “alt-right”, “just white men”, “uneducated”, “lazy”, “intolerant” or worse, ignoring that those who they are treating dismissively are in fact the biggest part of this world’s population, the working class.
A part of the population that is in fact of every race, of every age, of every gender, or even transgender, but with two things in common: they’re poor, and they’re not being represented at all.
One just has to take a walk at night in my hometown to see that there’s been a rise in crime, prostitution, and drug dealing, issues that arise with the rise of poverty.
Because, let’s be honest, right now it looks as if the governments of developed countries were just procrastinating on their duties towards people, they’re focused on gaining votes and looking good, not on solving any actual problem, rather, they prefer to create sides and then radicalize them.
It doesn’t really matter who wins these next elections in the USA, as long as politicians don’t change their ways, as long as they neglect the working class, the discomfort will grow to a point where we’ll risk an explosion, turning either into a civil war in any of the countries that we currently see as above those events, or even worse, another global conflict.
We Must Look at History
From the French Revolution to the ascent of the Nazi Party we can find examples of how the discomfort of the general population, when left unaddressed has led us to the most violent events in human history.
We Must Act Now
Now more than ever we need our political class to get their job done. We need them to take seriously issues related to the lower classes, we need them to be unpopular, we need them to take measures that make easier for their people to have a decent living in general.
And we must stop blaming the lower classes for their poverty, by doing that we’re only fuelling a rage that can destroy everything and turn us sixty years backwards.
Instead, we must listen to them, learn why actually they feel like they do, they’re not bad, they’re not racist, the media tells us that but it isn’t true, they’re just misrepresented, they don’t have where to choose, and if we don’t build bridges with them, if we don’t get them out of their hole, we risk heading into war.
All of us do fantasize about leaving everything and changing our lives forever.
Then, after a couple of hours, we turn on the PlayStation, the TV, or whatever and forget about it until maybe some days later, when we’ll turn on the PlayStation, the TV, or whatever.
That’s the perfect way to waste our own lives, always desiring something, but never willing to change for it.
In this article, I’m not going to tell you the secret to become rich, or happy.
I’ll be happy just helping you to change that something you’d like to change.
It works like this:
If you want to have some muscles, or simply stay fit, you must exercise and start eating well. Stuffing your mouth with chocolate while imagining the output of a healthy lifestyle will only make you feel miserable.
The same is for everything else. Nobody is born with any ability, some have the potential, but without training, it will stay at nothing.
Some years ago I decided to learn to play the guitar because I REALLY wanted to play the guitar. I had been fantasizing about it since I was a kid. So one day I decided to make a band with some friends and start playing.
Of course, we sucked big time, and I was probably the worst of us.
Motivation helped me through the first months, but what really helped me when motivation failed was my commitment to play the guitar.
You see, this is something like romantic relationships: During the first months everything is wonderful and easy, you’re full of emotions and you don’t notice all the things that are actually wrong or would need improvement.
And then that chemical cocktail fails (it must, if it didn’t we would literally die), and you start noticing things that aren’t that okay. Like farts under the sheets.
In my case was my complete inability to keep my tempo straight.
And then I had to decide.
Was it worth all of that time that I could be spending on playing video games, watching series or doing anything that would mean an instant reward to me?
I decided it was, in the long run, I would learn an ability that would last a lifetime.
That’s what you must think if you want to achieve something.
Instant rewards might feel okay while they last, but will leave you with an emptiness feeling, the notion of having wasted your most valuable asset, your lifetime.
But long term projects are a motivation to keep going, to keep improving every day, and will leave you with more rewarding feelings. You will feel realized.
1. Get Motivated
Find what really makes you happy, you already know what it is, Probably it’s that “childish dream” you’ve had all of your life in your head, that thing that your whole family told you to forget about because it won’t make you any money.
Except being a dinosaur, unless you can actually develop some experimental procedure to become one, then please, go for it. Not for the money, but for the joy of doing it.
2. Don’t Give a S*** About What Others Think
I know, change is scary, there’re many things that could fail, many things that could go wrong.
Also, we don’t want to fail, because we believe that we’ll look bad into other’s eyes, we don’t want our tiny egos to get hurt.
And that makes us want to delay it, so we start making excuses like “it’s not the right time”, “I’m too busy right now”.
Do you know what?
Screw them. No one actually cares about what you do, they’re quite busy with their lives. And if they don’t it’s more their problem than yours.
Think about it
Nobody has any reason to judge you (unless you hurt somebody or something), and if they do, why do you care?
There’s a not well-known fact, and it is that judgemental people project their own defects onto others. It’s part of what’s called Psychological Projection.
People will be judgemental or not, but it’s not onto you to decide for them, also, who wants to fit in a group of grey people?
Only grey people and those are the ones who will never do anything, nor will let others do it.
3. Keep Moving
Have you ever pushed a heavy weight? Your car maybe?
It’s more difficult at the beginning, as you have to overcome the friction against the ground and the gravity force, but when you finally set some movement inertia makes it easier.
That’s the same thing you need if you want to achieve something.
Trust me, getting up from the couch will be the most difficult thing that you’ll have to do, after that, your muscles will be warm and your mind sharp, so any kind of chore you want to do will be easier.
And day after day you will improve, developing a new ability, growing some muscles, starting a new venture, or just gaining confidence to talk to girls is something that will improve with practice.